5 Ways to Be a Better Partner (Plus, a Meditation for Coping With Conflict)


5 Ways to Be a Better Partner (Plus, a Meditation for Coping With Conflict)

Yoga Journal’s June cover model Chrissy Carter shares her 5 best tips for being a better partner in your relationship, plus a guided meditation for finding the calm in conflict.

There’s no playbook for handling the highs and lows of relationships, but there are some tools to help you navigate these extremes and maybe even be a better partner while you’re at it. Here, Yoga Journal’s June cover model Chrissy Carter shares her 5 best tips for being your best you in your relationship, along with a guided meditation from our app partner, Meditation Studio, to help you find the calm in conflict.

See also 4 Surprising Reasons to Meditate (Your Sex Life Will Thank You)

5 Ways to Be a Better Partner

1. See and Accept Your Partner for Who They Really Are

“I think the single most valuable lesson I’ve learned from being in a relationship is the importance of seeing and accepting your partner for who they are," Carter says. “So often, consciously or unconsciously, we see our partners for who we want them to be. This discord between projection and reality obstructs clear, honest communication and can perpetuate the beliefs that contribute to our suffering."

2. Appreciate Your Partner

“I think sincerity of heart, honesty, and a great sense of humor are so important," Carter shares. “I appreciate my partner for always being a mirror so I can see (whether I like it or not) my own patterns and take action towards positive change."

3. Be Willing to ‘Change’ Your Story

“I believe we choose our partners based on our relationship with ourselves," Carter says. “Our partners reflect our self-worth and validate our story. In my experience, my partner and I bring out the worst in each other when we look to the other for evidence of our own limited story. That’s when we repeat the same unproductive patterns that keep us trapped in poor communication and subsequent reactions. We bring out the best in each other when we challenge ourselves to change the story—when we use all of the ways in which we trigger each other’s story to actually break free from it."

4. Give Yourself Time and Space to Forgive

“Time, space, and perspective are, for me, the keys to forgiveness," Carter reveals. “It’s a lot to ask of ourselves to forgive in the moment, especially if it inhibits us from feeling valid emotions such as frustration, anger, betrayal, or sadness. I think it’s important to give yourself the space to feel what you feel; only then can you process those feelings. With time, new layers of meaning will emerge and you will relate to the situation from a different perspective. Then I think you can contemplate forgiveness. All of this said, I think it can be helpful to keep an open mind, because the intention behind someone’s actions may not be what we had assumed in the moment."

5. Focus on Yourself (and Do Your Own Work)

“My ability to be a loving, supportive partner depends so much on my dedication to my own work," Carter says. “There’s a great passage in the Bhagavad Gita that tells us it’s better to do our own work poorly than someone else’s perfectly. This, to me, captures the essence of relationships. It’s so tempting to do our partner’s work, but in doing so we not only deprive them of the opportunity to do it for themselves, we also conveniently avoid our own stuff. As hard as it is, when I focus on myself—my work, my needs, my story—it enables me to contribute to my relationship in a much clearer, more honest way."

See also 7 Meditations for the Relationship Issues We’ve All Had

Meditation: Finding Calm in Conflict by Chrissy Carter

Check out all the Guided Meditations in the Relationship Collection on 5-star app Meditation Studio


Master Padmasana (Lotus Pose) in 6 Steps


Master Padmasana (Lotus Pose) in 6 Steps

Open your hips and help center your consciousness with teacher Ty Landrum as he walks you through these 6 simple steps to Padmasana (Lotus Pose).

Rick Cummings

Next in YOGAPEDIA 3 Ways to Modify Padmasana

Padma = Lotus · asana = pose
Lotus Pose

Benefits: Opens your hips; helps redirect apana (downward energy) through the lower half of your body, moving it back toward the center of your pelvis and up your spine; has a centering effect on consciousness.

Instructions: Master Padmasana (Lotus Pose) in 6 Steps

1. Sit on the floor with your pelvis in a gentle posterior tilt and your knees bent, separated, and resting in an easy crossed position (right leg on top).

2. Hold your right calf with both hands, and rotate your tibia (shinbone) away from you (laterally). Keeping that rotation, close your knee by drawing your right heel toward your navel.

3. Extend through your right foot in plantar flexion (toes pressing down). Place your right foot into the crease of your left hip, and reach through your right femur (thighbone) so that your right knee moves down toward the floor.

4. Repeat steps 2–3 on your left side so that both legs are bound. Your left leg should now be on top with both knees dropped down toward the floor.

5. Allow your spine to rise up vibrantly from the center of your pelvis. Release your soft palate by visualizing space across the base of your skull, and allow your gaze to soften down the line of your nose. Your chin may be lifted or dropped. Straighten your arms, and rest the backs of your hands on your knees. Take Jnana Mudra by bringing together the tips of your thumbs and index fingers and straightening the other fingers.

6. As you draw your breath in, gently lift your pubic bone and spread your lower back. Find a subtle toning action in your pelvic floor. As you exhale, feel sensation rise up your spine, through your heart, and to your soft palate. Allow any thoughts or images that began to form on the inhale to dissolve back into the emptiness of your body. Stay for at least 10 breaths.

See also Core Concept: Soften Your Middle for a Stronger Core

Avoid These Mistakes


Rick Cummings

DON’T torque your knees as you’re arranging the posture. (That is, don’t pull upward with too much force on the lower leg as you bring your foot into position.) Doing so can damage tissue, especially the medial meniscus—a band of cartilage on the inner side of your knee joint.

See also A Home Practice for Happy, Open Hips


Rick Cummings

DON’T let your feet move into inversion (ankles roll in and feet move toward your inner shins). That hurts your ankles and can lead to a sprain! Avoid this by reaching into plantar flexion and by developing more lateral rotation in your hips.

See also 7 Steps to Master Chaturanga Dandasana

About Our Pro
Teacher and model Ty Landrum is director of the Yoga Workshop in Boulder, Colorado. He teaches Ashtanga Vinyasa Yoga in the contemplative style of his mentors, Mary Taylor and Richard Freeman. With a PhD in philosophy, Ty has a special touch for explaining the theory of yoga with color and creativity. As a teacher, he’s passionate about sharing the brilliance of yoga with anyone willing to learn (for more information, go to tylandrum.com).


Shoulder-Pressing Pose


Shoulder-Pressing Pose

This arm balance relies more on precise positioning than on strength, making it more accessible for students beginning an arm balancing practice.
Bhujapidasana (Shoulder-Pressing Pose)

Shoulder-Pressing Pose: Step-by-Step Instructions

Step 1

Squat with your feet a little less than shoulder width apart, knees wide.

See also More Arm Balance Poses

Step 2

Tilt your torso forward between your inner thighs. Then, keeping your torso low, raise your hips until your thighs become close to parallel to the floor.

Step 3

Snug your upper left arm and shoulder as much as possible under the back of your left thigh just above the knee, and place your left hand on the floor at the outside edge of your left foot, fingers pointing forward. Then repeat on the right. As you do this your upper back will round.

Step 4

Press your inner hands firmly against the floor and slowly begin to rock your weight back, off your feet and onto your hands. As you straighten your arms, your feet will lift lightly off floor, not by raw strength but by carefully shifting your center of gravity.

Step 5

Squeeze your outer arms with your inner thighs, and cross your right ankle over your left ankle. Look straight ahead. Hold for 30 seconds, then bend your elbows and lightly release your feet back to the floor with an exhale.

Step 6

Repeat the pose a second time with the left ankle on top.


Pose Information

Sanskrit Name


Pose Level


Contraindications and Cautions

Shoulder, elbow, wrist and low back injuries

Preparatory Poses

Garudasana (Eagle Pose)
Malasana (Garland Pose)
Bakasana (Crane Pose)
Baddha Konasana (Bound Angle Pose)

Follow-up Poses

Uttanasana (Standing Forward Bend)
Adho Mukha Svanasana (Downward-Facing Dog)
Urdhva Mukha Svanasana (Upward-Facing Dog)

Beginner’s Tip

To secure your balance, support your buttocks on a yoga block or bolster.


Strengthens the arms and wrists
Tones the belly
Improves balance


More Than a Pushup: Get the Most Out of Chaturanga Dandasana


More Than a Pushup: Get the Most Out of Chaturanga Dandasana

“Four-Limbed Staff Pose" says it all. This pose becomes much easier when the rest of your body pitches in. Learn how to get the most out of this challenging pose.
Alexandria Crow Chaturanga

For the first couple of years of my yoga life, Chaturanga Dandasana (Four-Limbed Staff Pose) was the bête noire of my practice. As a flexible person with loose shoulders, I thought the pose was designed for another species—one that had a strength that was completely alien to me.

Over time, though, Chaturanga has become a great friend and teacher, helping me to develop the strength and stability that once seemed elusive and imprint actions and principles that serve throughout my practice.

The pose is challenging for many students, but its payoffs are great: It strengthens the arms and legs, tones the abdominals, builds healthy shoulders, and prepares students for arm balances, inversions, and backbends. And it’s character-building.

Chaturanga presents different challenges for different bodies. It can initially be harder for women than for men. Men generally have stronger pectoral muscles than women, and can use their power to muscle through Chaturanga. The key to making the pose doable for any body is to learn proper alignment. Correct alignment builds strength for those who struggle in that department and teaches the sturdier student, who often relies on brute force, to refine the pose in ways that prevent damaging the shoulders.

Learn to set yourself up accurately, and you’ll see that Chaturanga isn’t just about upper-body strength—that’s a misperception. To practice with integrity and ease, you’ll need to distribute the work throughout the entire body by rallying the power of your abdomen, spine, legs, and heels.

See also Baptiste Yoga: 10 Poses for Strong Arms

Pose Benefits:

  • Strengthens arm, shoulder, and leg muscles
  • Develops core stability
  • Prepares body for inversions and arm balances


  • Wrist or shoulder injury
  • Pregnancy (though there is some debate about this)

Chaturanga Is Not a Pushup

The tendency with Chaturanga is to practice it like a pushup, letting the elbows flare out and burdening the upper body. This creates misalignments in the shoulders, placing these delicate joints at risk. To understand how this happens, hold your arms out in front of you at shoulder height with your hands shoulder-distance apart, as if you were in Plank Pose. Then bend your elbows, allowing them to stick out. Observe the effect that this has on your shoulders; the heads of your upper arms fall forward and your breastbone (sternum) sinks. Now do it again, but this time hug your elbows in at your sides. Notice the position of your upper body: The head of the upper arm is in line with (not in front of) the side of your body, and the sternum remains buoyant.

Maintaining this alignment in the shoulders and chest while bearing weight is as challenging as it is crucial. But there are a few ways to make a well-aligned Chaturanga more accessible. First, practice the pose with your knees down on the floor and closely monitor your elbow alignment. Next, notice how deep you go as you lower yourself toward the floor and catch yourself before you go too far. Finally, share the effort of the pose between the upper and the lower body so that the legs can play an active role.

See also 7 Steps to Master Chaturanga Dandasana

Use Your Triceps


Try a variation that takes some of the difficulty out of the pose so that you can focus on the details that will protect your shoulders as you develop strength.

Begin in Plank Pose. See that your hands are directly underneath your shoulders, your feet hip-distance apart, and your heels stacked over your toes. Pull the navel in to engage your core. Extend your sternum forward as you press your heels back, so that you feel your body getting long and strong. Draw the front of your thighs toward the ceiling—but don’t allow the tailbone to follow, or you’ll wind up with your butt stuck up high in the air. Instead, release your tailbone toward your heels and notice how that makes you more compact at your center.

Keeping your gaze on the floor, look slightly forward so that the crown of your head is a continuation of the line of your spine. From Plank, drop your knees to the floor but maintain the lifted, engaged feeling in your lower belly—almost as though it were a tray carrying your lower back. Keep your toes tucked under so you can retain a sense of your heels pressing back. From here, reestablish your alignment: Inhale, drawing the heads of the shoulders up away from the floor and reemphasizing the lift in your belly as you direct the tip of your tailbone down.

As you exhale, bend your elbows, keeping them drawn in against your sides, and slowly lower yourself toward the floor. Keep your body as straight as a plank of wood, neither letting your center sag nor sticking your butt up in the air. Notice the distinction between this modification and the Knees-Chest-Chin variation taught in many classes. Knees-Chest-Chin has many fine qualities, but is not an ideal model for imprinting the alignment of Chaturanga. Make sure that as you lower yourself toward the floor, the heads of your upper arms remain at the same height as your elbows (rather than dropping toward the floor as they do in Knees-Chest-Chin).

If you are correctly aligned, your belly will reach the floor before your chest does. Keep your elbows by your sides, pull up through your core, and press back up to all fours. You’ll feel your triceps working. If you don’t, you have probably allowed your elbows to splay out, with your shoulders bearing the burden of the work.

See also Why You May Want to Start Cross-Training for Chaturanga

Catch Yourself


Paul Miller

The next modification teaches two features of a healthy Chaturanga: catching yourself at elbow height and activating your legs. With a strap, make a loop that’s as wide as your hips. (When you hold the loop flat across your abdomen at hipbone level, it should go from one side of your hips to the other.) Place it around your arms just above the elbows and come into Plank. As you inhale, reach your sternum and heels in opposite directions to get long, then lift the tops of your thighs and direct the tailbone toward your heels. Feel how the previous two actions prevent you from collapsing at your center and activate your core. As you exhale, energize your legs, keep the shoulders lifted and the chest extended forward, and bend your elbows until the strap catches you. Your shoulders should be at the same height as your elbows, so that each arm creates a 90-degree angle.

When you lower yourself beneath elbow height, it is very hard to maintain correct alignment in the shoulders, and they can become compromised. With the strap to support you, stay in the pose and reactivate the legs so they are lively participants. Heels back and heart forward will galvanize the quadriceps; thighs up and tailbone down will engage the belly, giving the pose vitality at its center. To deepen the difficulty and reinforce correct actions, use your core and legs to press back up to Plank.

See also DIY Plank Challenge: How Long Can You Hold It?

Share the Work


Ready to try the full pose? Come to Plank. Ideally, your body in Chaturanga will look just like your body in Plank, except with bent elbows. Emphasize these qualities, lifting and firming the entire body. Look slightly forward so that your head is not drooping (which tends to drag the shoulders down as you move into Chaturanga). As you exhale, keep your elbows drawn in and your shoulder heads lifted. Slowly lower down. Create 90-degree angles with your arms, with your upper arms parallel to the floor and forearms perpendicular. Your goal is to stay straight and strong; keep pressing your heels back and reaching your heart forward so that your body remains taut.

Avoid common Chaturanga pitfalls: One tendency is to either sink at the center of the torso (creating a backbend), another is to leave the butt up in the air as the shoulders dip toward the floor (creating a pike). The more you can activate the front of your body so that it supports the back of your body, the more success you will have at avoiding these polarities. Engage the belly and quadriceps by lifting the tops of the thighs to the ceiling and drawing your tailbone toward your heels.

Another pitfall is to put so much energy into reaching the chest forward that you forget to press the heels back. When this happens, you come too far forward onto your toes and lose the strength of the legs, forcing the shoulders to work overtime. If the shoulders carry the pose, they often collapse, sacrificing alignment and creating vulnerability. To prevent this, stack your heels over your toes in Plank, and keep pressing them back even as you enthusiastically extend your sternum forward and move into Chaturanga. When your legs come to the party, your shoulders will thank you.

See also Kathryn Budig Challenge Pose: Crow Jumpback

Your Prep Pose for a Lifetime of Yoga Practice

Practicing Chaturanga Dandasana (Four-Limbed Staff Pose) plays a vital role in doing the Sun Salutations that are central to Ashtanga and vinyasa flow yoga. The pose strengthens and tones the entire body, helps teach important alignment, and prepares you for a multitude of positions, including the following:

Arm Balances

The upper-body and lower-belly strength that you develop by practicing Chaturanga, combined with the confidence it instills, translates beautifully into the kind of power and core consciousness you need for arm balances such as Bakasana (Crane Pose, often called Crow Pose), Galavasana (Flying Pigeon Pose) and Vasisthasana (Side Plank Pose).



Chaturanga creates a stability in the shoulders, a sense of compactness at the center, and an alertness in the legs. These are crucial to doing safe inversions. When practiced with attention to alignment, Chaturanga becomes the ideal training for poses like Sirsasana (Headstand), Pincha Mayurasana (Forearm Balance) and Adho Mukha Vrksasana (Handstand).



The legs feature prominently in a healthy Chaturanga and in healthy backbends (in which the curve of the spine is evenly distributed). Learning to use the legs effectively in Chaturanga imprints this awareness, so that the legs can play an active role in poses such as Urdhva Mukha Svanasana (Upward-Facing Dog), Setu Bandha Sarvangasana (Bridge Pose) and Urdhva Dhanurasana (Upward Bow Pose, often called Wheel Pose).


See also Why Bother With Arm Balances?


Two Fit Moms: 4 Belly-Toning Core Exercises


Two Fit Moms: 4 Belly-Toning Core Exercises

Here are 4 yoga-inspired, belly-toning exercises that you can do in the comfort of your own home, on your own time.

We at Two Fit Moms know that strengthening the core is a struggle for many — especially moms, who often lack the time to practice and re-build muscle. Here are four yoga-inspired, belly-toning exercises that you can do in the comfort of your own home, on your own time. Begin with one exercise at a time, and eventually add all four to your practice.


Back to Basics: Three-Legged Down Dog Dissected


Back to Basics: Three-Legged Down Dog Dissected

More than a transition, when practiced mindfully this pose prepares the body for Warrior III, Standing Splits, and Handstand. Get more out of it every time.

Even if you could sail through Surya Namaskar in your sleep, we invite you to join us in revisiting the keystones of asana. Unlearn what you know, break your bad habits, and see if you can’t makeover your entire flow by re-focusing on a few foundational poses. Try an advanced approach to basic asana with SmartFLOW teacher trainer Tiffany Russo. Get #backtobasics with us all month on Facebook and Instagram.

This asana can come up a lot in a single vinyasa class. It often occupies the inhale between each Downward-Facing Dog and subsequent standing pose. You may spend a full cycle of breath here during Surya Namaskar. And your teacher may use longer holds in this pose as preparation for more challenging ones. But do you pay attention to how lifting that leg affects the rest of your body?

To get more out of this pose, the goal is to keep everything neutral when you lift your leg. If you keep your foundation exactly the same as in Adho Mukha Svanasana, this variation of it looks nearly identical from the front of the room. Even experienced students, however, tend to collapse into the standing leg side of the body, open their hip, shorten their side waist, and arch their back as soon as they lift a leg. But when practiced mindfully, integrating the actions below, this pose will make Warrior IIIStanding Splits, and even hopping into Handstands much easier.


《 Rick Braun – One Love (04:45) 》

《 Rick Braun – One Love (04:45) 》

Kundalini Yoga: 13 Poses to Help You Break Bad Habits


Kundalini Yoga: 13 Poses to Help You Break Bad Habits

You have the willpower and strength to kick bad habits for good. These 13 Kundalini poses will help you find them.

You have the willpower and strength to kick bad habits for good. Find them with Kundalini Yoga.

One of the most powerful Kundalini kriyas, or sequences, for finding the strength to break bad habits is a series of 13 poses called the Advanced Abdominal Strengthening Kriya. In part, this combination of movements and breathwork gives you an exceptional core workout. On a deeper level, it activates the third chakra, the energy center at your navel that is the source of willpower, where transformation and empowerment start. When this energy vortex is active and balanced, you feel grounded; the need to reach outside yourself to feel better is quieted.

See also Yoga Journal’s #CHAKRATUNEUP2015 

Try this practice every day for the next 40 days—the amount of time it takes to encode a new pattern of behavior, according to Kundalini theory. Mornings are best, before you get pulled into the drama of the day. Make this kriya your new habit and you will see negative thinking, self-doubt, procrastination, and resentment—the feelings often underlying addictive behavior—slowly melt away and become replaced by contentment, fulfilment, freedom, and the strength to follow through on whatever resolutions or changes you want to make and keep in the new year.

Also read the personal stories of 5 Yogis Who Overcame Addiction

Begin by chanting the Kundalini Adi mantra three times: Ong namo guru dev namo (“I bow to the divine creative consciousness within, I bow to the teacher within”). Start slow, taking rests when you need to and gradually building up to the times given for each pose. Keep the eyes closed and focus on the third eye—the chakra or energy center between your eyebrows. Deepen your focus by mentally repeating Sat (truth) as you inhale, Nam (identity) as you exhale. Make sure to pause for at least 30 to 60 seconds after each pose.


《 Rick Braun – Kiss In The Rain (04:37) 》

《 Rick Braun – Kiss In The Rain (04:37) 》


#西鄉隆盛 #西鄉殿 #末代武士 #敬天愛人




















《 Rick Braun – Natalie (04:11) 》

《 Rick Braun – Natalie (04:11) 》

Live Be Yoga: Asheville Salt Cave Is a Restful Oasis After a Month on the Road


Live Be Yoga: Asheville Salt Cave Is a Restful Oasis After a Month on the Road

The team gets a respite from traveling and discovers the healing benefits of salt.
Aris Seaberg at Asheville Salt Cave

Live Be Yoga ambassadors Jeremy Falk and Aris Seaberg are on a road trip across the country to share real talk with master teachers, explore innovative classes, and so much more—all to illuminate what’s in store for the future of yoga.

My eyes slowly flutter open as I hear the soft and deep OM resonate through the room. I’m gradually becoming aware of my body and surroundings again. I am lying in a nest of pillows and cushions on a salt pebble floor, and there is a large salt stone resting on my belly. A warm pink glow filters the room, along with the sound of fountains. Inhale. And exhale. I am allowing myself to soak up this moment of presence and peace. To my right, I see Jeremy awakening into his body, seemingly in the same state of peace.

This 45-minute session at Asheville Salt Cave began with a walk into this beautiful space, which is covered from floor to ceiling in 20 tons of naturally occurring salt imported from the Himalayas, the Celtic Sea, the Dead Sea, and Poland. The softness of the lights behind salt fixtures, the water that keeps the room at just the right humidity, and the beautiful design drawn into the salt floor made the space instantly soothing.

Live Be Yoga visits Asheville Salt Cave

Asheville Salt Cave

We had options to make ourselves comfortable in the nook of pillows on the floor or on the anti-gravity chairs. Our guide gave us some details about the cave and its healing properties. The purest forms of salt are said to be filled with approximately 84 trace minerals, high in vibration, and in such small particles that they are easily absorbed by the skin. Salt is known to balance health and energy, as well as to activate our own self-healing powers. Our guide told us it specifically assists in the healing of:

  • Respiratory illness
  • Sinusitis
  • Asthma
  • Allergies
  • Inflammation
  • Rheumatoid arthritis
  • Stress and feeling depleted
  • Detox
  • Healthy brain function
  • Mineral deficiency

We were then guided through a centering breath practice to help us to let go of the outside world. From there, we were left to absorb the natural healing benefits of the salt and the soothing sounds of water—and simply to have a few minutes of much-needed quiet time.

Live Be Yoga's Jeremy at Asheville Salt Cave

Many people nap, meditate, or read in the cave. No matter what we did, we were sitting in a space that closely mimics salt caves that occur in nature. Unlike many urban caves that are known to use “halogenerators” to disperse the salt into the room via dry fans, Asheville Salt Cave designed its cave to be a “speleotherapy” cave. This method uses an exact formula of temperature and water placement to keep the atmosphere balanced at a certain level of humidity. In fact, the room has created its own microclimate and is starting to naturally produce more salt on its own!

This practice of sitting in a salt cave may sound a bit “woo woo” to some, but there is something about getting back in tune with the simplicity of nature. After all, our bodies are largely made up of water and salt. Upon awakening from my meditative nap in the cave, I felt different than awakening from the usual Savasana (Corpse Pose) state. I felt both an internal stillness and more vibrant. I felt emotionally and energetically more balanced, which was so needed for both of us—life on the road is exciting but can be disruptive to the nervous system. Offering a space of stillness and the opportunity to heal, balance, and realign, Asheville Salt Cave was an oasis in the midst of our travel life. If only there was one at every stop along our way!

Follow the tour and get the latest stories in real time @livebeyoga on Instagram and Facebook.


《 Rick Braun – We Don’t Talk Anymore (04:04) 》

《 Rick Braun – We Don’t Talk Anymore (04:04) 》


#大叔之愛 #其實春田也是大叔了吧 #牧春民萬歲










《大叔之愛》(おっさんずラブ)是日本朝日電視台於2016年12月推出的一部短篇特別劇,由於故事大受歡迎,2018年4月再推出全長七集的連續劇版,劇情內容就如同劇名,描述著一場「大叔的愛」。男主角春田創一(田中圭 飾)是一名任職於房地產公司「天空不動產」東京第二營業部的職員,33歲單身的他窩在老家,熱心、善良、有些笨拙,戀愛運不佳,卻仍在內心裡抱持著結婚願望。母親為了希望他能學會獨立,同時也想追尋自己的新生活而決定離家,正愁往後如何打理生活起居的春田,恰巧發現從本社調來的後輩牧凌太(林遣都 飾)正在找尋新住處,「覬覦」牧的好廚藝與滿分的生活技能,遂邀請牧一塊同住,兩人奇妙的同居生活便就此展開。

33歲的春田和25歲的牧,怎麼樣聽起來都不符「大叔」呀?是的,大叔指的是兩人的上司,營業部部長黑田武藏(吉田鋼太郎 飾),這位讓春田景仰的已婚上司,有一天竟說喜歡他,震驚之餘,春田忍不住向牧吐露煩惱,沒想到牧竟也反過來向他告白:「我知道前輩喜歡巨乳,但是巨根不可以嗎?」衝擊告白再一樁,春田的桃花期開得茂盛,不過,卻和他想像中的風景不太相同。

不只是每週六晚間播出的戲劇,劇組也同步開啟了一波又一波令人印象深刻的創意宣傳戰。比如在網路上設有「武蔵の部屋(link is external)」的Instagram帳號,不定期貼上部長視角的春田觀察日記,讓人不知不覺地也透過武藏的粉紅濾鏡,再一次審視這位笨拙男子的萌點十足。另外,他們也在西武池袋線的列車車門上貼了宣傳海報,一邊是部長,一邊則是春田,當車門關起來時,兩人的臉也會越來越靠近,仿真的「接吻」瞬間,也讓人覺得實在太有創意。





55歲的黑田部長有一位結褵30年的妻子,多年來兩人相處融洽,但在部長終於覺醒自己的性向時,便面臨了離婚局面,在追求自我時造成了他人的傷害,還能不能堅毅地走下去?牧很早就認知到自己的性向,如何去有自信地表達自己、如何與心愛之人好好溝通,則成為他的人生課題。其他出場人物也是各有故事,各有性格,部長的妻子蝶子(大塚寧寧 飾)該如何面對丈夫的中年出櫃?春田的青梅竹馬千珠(內田理央 飾)又要怎麼處理自己後知後覺的心情才對?看似輕鬆卻又讓人有更多思考空間,讓觀眾忍不住一集接一集看下去,為著裡頭人物擔心、捧心、傷心、窩心又暖心,對劇情的觀後感,也從「好笑」與「好鬧」,變成了「好甜」、「好糾結」以及「好希望大家都能幸福。


這其實也呼應了《大叔之愛》製作人貴島彩理曾經在日媒訪談中提到的,這部作品的主題在於──所謂的「愛上一個人」是怎麼一回事呢?她說,「這是一個年輕世代也會碰上的問題,年長到幾十歲說不定也都答不出來。雖然在設定上有一些讓人難以想像的部分,但正因為這類題材普遍讓人感覺到尷尬(恥ずかしい),才因此獲得大家的共鳴與應援吧。」事實上,就算抽離掉「BL」(Boy’s Love,指男性間的同性愛)這項強力「賣點」,單看劇情裡的你追我跑、彼此錯過誤會又重逢、經典的「日劇跑」,都是一場又一場扎扎實實的愛情劇裡常見的主流攻防戰,愛本就無需分類的。《大叔之愛》並未給予一個「關於愛」的正確答案,但試圖描述著每一個人都能有自己詮釋愛、面對愛、擁抱愛的方式。每每在《大叔之愛》播出期間與播畢後,Twitter上的討論盛況都宛如嘉年華般熱絡,6月2日晚間播出最終回時,根據分析顧問公司DATASECTION的資料指出,有超過16萬則推文都在談論該劇,而大部分的內容中,都提到了「愛」這個字,聽起來有些老派,有點「尷尬」,卻也很溫暖。

最近日本戲劇圈以LGBT為題材的作品越來越多了,除了《大叔之愛》以外,2018年就有1月於富士電視台播出的《總覺得鄰家更幸福》(隣の家族は青く見える),以及3月於NHK播出的《弟弟的丈夫》(弟の夫),前者在故事裡描述到一對同性情侶廣瀨涉(真島秀和 飾)與青木朔(北村匠海 飾)可愛又有些揪心的互動,後者則描述著主角折口彌一(佐藤隆太 飾)與女兒,和已過世雙胞胎弟弟的加拿大同性丈夫馬克(把瑠都 飾)的三人生活,探索「家庭」的形式。這三部作品都有不同的設定、氛圍與質感,但不變的都是那份描述「愛」時的真摯姿態,期待著未來還有更多有趣又充滿著「愛」的戲劇作品,能夠以輕巧而不失深刻的方式,牽動觀眾們的心弦,讓我們知道更多元卻同樣美好的愛之形狀。

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